Posted by Greg on April 17, 2002, at 14:50:19
In reply to Dearest Greg ..., posted by Willow on April 16, 2002, at 8:06:51
No, I didn't think you were ignoring me. You make your own homemade whine too? Maybe someday we can get together and compare recipes :)
My daughter has always talked to me pretty openly about most things, more loudly at times than others if you know what I mean. But what I found the most distressing about this was one, she thought I would be ashamed of her, and two, she didn't think I would understand. I asked her if she was ashamed of me for having depression, and she said no. And I said "well?" I told her that she's done things that I didn't approve of, but that I've never been ashamed of her. And then we talked a long time about my understanding her depression. I told her who better to understand the feeling of depression than someone who has it? I know I don't understand what her individual issues are, but I do understand her feeling of not being able to cope, of feeling helpless and hopeless and I've been thru times where death was preferable to life. It seemed to make her feel better to hear that. She has come to me a lot with questions in the last few days. Some have been very hard to answer, but I'm doing my best.
I will tell Cam that you personally ordered the snow just for him :) I'm sure he will be full of gratitude (among other things). Are you sure you want me to tell him that you were "blowing" real hard... You know how he is.
Greg
> I hope you didn't think that I was ignoring you. I had good intentions of emailing you, but I was in the process of making a good glass of whine for myself. The contents of the vine are a blend or prescription drugs and some mental instability, and a dash of real life to add that original taste to it.
>
> Your original post touched me dearly, as a parent and as a child of a parent with a mental illness. As you may know, when I was around her age I had a trip to the hospital, so I really understand your fear. But I had never spoke about my dark feelings to anyone. Your daughter speaking to you means that you have a healthy relationship! And you are doing all the right things.
>
> My eldest though younger then yours has seen a psychologist for her anxiety. Once passing the office she said to a friend she likes the doctor there (she has a phobia about doctors - breaks out in a sweat, tears, an anxiety attack at the mention of needing to see one) because she gets to talk about herself.
>
> So in my opinion you are doing all the right things. Wish I was able to give you assurance and a real hug at the moment that it happened.
>
> And as for threads, this place is like the smoking section, no set rules on the timing of what we say. Give my best to your pal Cam, apparently he got a dumping of snow, a whole foot of it. Tell him I was "blowing" real hard and it must have worked because it's sunny and warm here, temps around 20+c (70F.)
>
> Little Willow
>
>
> ps yesterday was t-shirt temperature. i stood on top of my last snowpile breaking it up enjoying the cool it offered and wondering if it was too early for all the snow to melt, as i enjoyed the clean aroma of it
poster:Greg
thread:22163
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20020411/msgs/22214.html