Posted by JANNBEAU (homenym) on March 27, 2002, at 21:34:27
In reply to Re: no transference » JANNBEAU (homenym), posted by Penny on March 25, 2002, at 22:57:19
>Hi, Penny. Understood! That makes sense. I guess I was, to some extent, trying to be "funny"--hard when you are typing your thoughts rather than speaking them, and when you don't know the person to whom you write.
You're right, it does take time for transference to develop, maybe because it involves, above all other things, trust. I've been there, too--unbelievable issues with abandonment with which I still wrestle (and I am old! I have adult children!). I, also, developed a transference relationship with a therapist-just once-and I made more progress with him than with any other psychotherapist I ever had. I think it is a necessary part of the therapeutic relationship, if you are ready to deal with your issues. Guess I wasn't finished when I stopped!
I wish you luck AND love, in ALL your relationships. Perhaps working through your pain is the best way to obtain both.
Jannbeau
Perhaps. But I really think we just didn't click. It took me a while to develop transference feelings for my regular therapist, but I liked her before then. Just got a "I know and you can't change my mind about it and you HAVE to work through this now" attitude from the new one.
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> Have thought about calling another therapist my therapist is in practice with (the sub isn't in practice with my therapist). My therapist gave me the second therapist's name as a contact if the situation with the arranged sub didn't work out.
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> I suppose I am probably too sensitive about things, and that is especially true when I'm going through these mood swings. But I tried to convey that, and she didn't back off. So I did.
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> Penny
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> > > Oh! No transference! Although, obviously, I don't know your two therapists and I can't say that your substitute doc is or isn't a good therapist, have you thought that, perhaps, she "rubs you the wrong way" simply because she isn't your regular therapist?
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> > Just another thought. Not meant to "tell" you how you feel or why.
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> > Cheers,
> > Jannbeau (home-nym)
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