Posted by IsoM on March 19, 2002, at 19:22:43
In reply to Re: still cutting... » Krazy Kat , posted by Zo on March 19, 2002, at 19:07:10
Emma, I agree with KK - move away, get out of that atmosphere.
You trade one set of problems for another, but if you trade wisely, you'll be in control of the new problems, not your parents.When I split from a very destructive relationship with my husband, I felt lost, so alone (even though friends were being supportive) & bleak. But I preferred it over the hell I knew previously. There was no way out of that arrangement, nothing to improve. At least on my own, my problems were my own & I had control of them. I wasn't dancing to someone else's song, it was my own. And bit by bit, I made it better.
As long as you can find a roof over your head that's not infested with rats & cockroaches, has running water, toilet, & heat, go for it. Food & shelter are the necessities, everything else you can gather bit by bit as you rebuild your own life & environment. I gather second-hand dishes, something to sit on, etc. As I slowly got better things, I'd pass the second-hand stuff to others who were needy.
Don't cut yourself off from all contact with those you care about though. You need someone as a safety net, even if you do feel alone around them. People are often willing to help if they only can be told how to. Many feel helpless 'cause they don't know what someone needs & as that individual withdraws, they assume they don't like them anymore.
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