Posted by IsoM on March 10, 2002, at 16:03:11
In reply to Re: mind games, part1- re not playing is a game, posted by ambrosialdelight on March 10, 2002, at 15:22:18
To each his own. Whether one enjoys the give & take of mind games or hates them probably has much to do with how these games affect them.
I grew up in a household where it was necessary to play mind-games. That's how I coped but it was stressful for me to always be planning strategies with different peoples. Then despite my best intenetions, I ended up with a husband who played them & very well - he convinced me for a long time.
I'm tired of games. They're not fun for me, they stress me, & eat away at me if I involve myself in them. So while I may not 'refuse to play' them, I'll play them my way. I don't bluff. What you see is what you get. If anyone wishes to disagree, go ahead, it won't change my viewpoint. I've been told by many others that I don't play games from comments that I'm blunt, to I'm frank, to I'm refreshingly honest & open. I suppose it depends on how others view mind-games themselves.
And yes, I think on the whole, we unintentionally tend to play them with others, especially if we don't know one another well yet & are feeling out the path. For those who get real enjoyment & elation from them, I don't mind at all, but I simply can't play back. I hate coffee, it makes me gag, & even the smell puts me off, but I have no objection with others drinking coffee. Why should I? I have no objections with others enjoying mind games either. I just don't.
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