Posted by Willow on January 20, 2002, at 22:08:40
In reply to Re: *KAZOO* PLEASE READ. I'm here. » dreamer, posted by kazoo on January 20, 2002, at 5:07:35
> Willow, my dear, what's new with you?
Oooh! I've been boycotting the site because of Cam's latest banishment, but for you I will forgo my moral views. Have you ever heard the saying, "Do as I say, not as I do!" It probably evolved from common sense, since it's easier to provide lip service.
Meanwhile I'm at it (the lip service), I'll suggest that you search your abode for every piece of laundry you can find and put a load in the wash before you proceed with anything else. I'm the queen of laundry,a laundress, and I usually fold my days efforts in the evening on the open chat. Hint, hint!
I'm always here, but during times like this I wish I was closer to my cyber friends. I highly recommend that you dump everything in the latrine, close the lid, then flush. Since you're there you should check behind the door for stray socks and sniff the towels. (Fold the clean ones and musty ones go in the wash. If you have a large supply of clean socks don't bother checking them, if they're on the floor in the wash they go.)
Now for the kitchen! I must be spending too much time there because I'm gaining weight. If I could only transpose some over to you? I want you to do some grocery shopping and I'll give you the list: oatmeal (Quacker oats stuff,) eggs, milk, cheese, salt, sugar, variety of apples, little beef steaks, rice, mixed veges(broccoli, red peppers, scallions, etc. look for things that are priced right,) coffee, some orange juice and your favourite ice cream (mine is butterscotch.) It only takes a few minutes to cook any of this stuff up and you can drink your coffee meanwhile you meander between the stove and fridge. Fill your sink with dishes, hot water and a little dishsoap; proceed to wash a few between mouthfuls of coffee and flipping things in the pan.
Once your stomach is full and the homestead is half-way presentable, you fill your tub up with hot water and just soak. When you feel yourself relax start thinking of a good friend who can help you with the probate business. You can't attend to this by yourself. (I would recommend that you have a lawyer present, but I know how you feel about them.) Get someone who is steadfast, unemotional. As for your sibling, like Kat said erase all emotion of her for this occassion, best to pay someone to listen and keep the direction of your emotions on an even keel. (I know easier said then done. Remember this is lip service, but it is coming from a woman. Have you ever listened to a hysterical woman and not heard a thing?)
Now for your church giving you solace, (hopefully nobody is reading this because I'm going to get crucified) I don't know of any happy catholic men. As a child, I attended diffrent faiths and the catholic church was the most unwelcoming of them. The only positive that comes to mind is the ritual of saying prayers. Whenever I want to relax I drink tea (add it to the grocery list,) the habit in itself is relaxing. I believe that prayers can work the same way. Does that make any sense?
Coming from a small family I'm fortunate that my losses have been few, but I have made pacts with God if one friend lived and questioned society why my grandmother needed to suffer so. I did understand where your grief was coming from, but thought it would be more prudent to ride out the storm. (Similar to childbirth, yes it hurts, words of sympathy don't help until after the fact.) And yes the doctors fumbled with the care provided for my grandmother, they argued amongst each other and move her to the operation room and back to her bed I don't know how many times.
Unfortunately the science of medicine in regards to our seniors is still a new frontier. This makes for a lot of unknowns, which breeds an easy hiding place for incompetence.
Where does this leave you? Of course you miss her, but in ten years I promise the wound won't hurt as much. Meantime, take a good look in the mirror at your clean shaven face. Take stock, who are you? where do you want to go?
You are alone on this over-populated planet? Or do you choose to be alone at this point in time? Boy, you sure can do a pout better than myself! Pick yourself up, no it's not easy, but I suspect you aren't a quitter or pouter by nature.
For amusement check out: http://www.travel.fi/int/kakslauttanen/index.html
and for fun if your neighbours can't see take a roll naked in the snow.
What have I been up to? I schedule my work around doctors appointments, nursing my little ones, crying over a broken car, learnt where the fifth gear was in a borrowed standard, and spend my evenings wondering how you are.
Your Number One Fan
Willowps i still love it when you call me dear
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