Posted by jane d on January 16, 2002, at 19:45:25
In reply to Re: Rules » Dinah, posted by IsoM on January 14, 2002, at 3:36:00
> Dinah, I feel just like you do. I hate vague rules meant to be 'understood' but no one really seems to agree on what they are. I like having clear cut rules that are printed out to refer back.
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> *Proper* rules & principles make life easier. It's the 'no solid rules' that bother me. No matter what you do & how good your intentions are, this sort of situation leaves a person open to being accused of not doing what's expected or right.Interesting. Until I read this thread I hadn't realized that this too varied with how depressed I was. I don't know that I ever like rules but when I'm depressed I tend to assume that they are inflexible - at least as applies to me. I think it's because I'm sure I'm so worthless that no one would ever cut me any slack or do anything for me unless compelled. So I see rules as being a line of protection for me and anyone else living on the world's bad side. When I'm not depressed I tend to understand the informal rules better and also to assume that if you give people a little flexibility they will generally bend the rules in ways that benefit everyone.
-Jane
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