Posted by Phil on December 15, 2001, at 15:32:47
In reply to Dr. Evil . . . , posted by Greg A. on December 15, 2001, at 0:45:28
> I have done a bad thing. Okay . . . not in the big scheme of things, but in my little world. In a moment of intoxication, I told a friend that I love her.
> >In the big scheme of things, getting drunk while taking Klonopin(anything else?)would be my biggest concern.
What I meant, I'm not sure. Someone I only know from writing; but writing innermost thoughts. Someone with whom I shared the way I felt.
> I think I meant that I cherished her and valued her. But I crossed a boundary in saying it and made her extremely uncomfortable. All seems lost. I value that friendship. I don't want to let go easily. What to do??
> >Once you have crossed that boundary, by the way, have you met her? Some people don't understand with good reason.
Deep sharing early in a relationship is not a sign of healthy boundaries. It is usually a sign that a train wreck is going to happen down the line. Believe me, I've been in a lot of train wrecks.Sorry to be so blunt.
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