Posted by kazoo on December 4, 2001, at 2:54:48
In reply to Re: Very Very Very Sad...More... Need Help!, posted by Simcha on December 3, 2001, at 15:10:26
Simcha, my dear, I am confused. In your first posting you state:
> > Well I just found out yesterday night that he has been plotting to break up with me after our trip to Paris together on Jan 1st. Gee, just in time for my 32nd birthday!!! This has been running through his head for the past month while he has been a dear to me.
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This person is obviously deceptive to string you along only to drop a bomb. How can you trust anyone like that?(By the way: how long did your relationship last?)
> 1. He claimed that he wanted to break up for me because I did not meet the qualifications for his "ideal mate."
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How long did it take for him to come to this conclusion? I get the feeling that your relationship was a "test drive," of sorts,which isn't bad in itself, but he should have notified you of his intentions right from the very beginning.
> 2. Then he said he realized that his notion of the perfect mate (He said it was a carbon copy of himself!!!! What crap!!!)
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What narcissism!> ... does not exist and that it was unfair to hold me to those super-human standards.
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An Ayran from Darien, no doubt. "Super-Human Standards": when were these published? It's difficult enough just being human, but superhuman? Who wants to be a cartoon/comic character? And thank God you're not superhuman,UGH, how droll and trite.> 3. To all of this I wanted to shout, "GROW UP!"
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No, you should have shouted "PALIMONY! PALIMONY!" and see how his tune changes.
> I've realized that my "perfect fantasy mate" does not exist. I accepted that fact a long time ago. Where has he been?
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Your "perfect fantasy mate" *does* exist and is selling mangos in Sao Paulo, Brazil on the corner of Rua Alcides Pertica and Ceasare. Don't accept anything because acceptance is a form of defeat.(For the "perfect fantasy mate" try an escort service. They may cost some bucks, but what the Heck, they'll do anything you want, if that's what you're looking for. Contrary to popular belief, fantasy does not set you free ... it dullens the senses.)
> I guess I really need to evaluate why I'm working so damn hard to remain attached to this man. That would be something to do.
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Forget about both the analysis and evalutation. Chalk it up to experience and move on.The dude did you a favor by being so forthright and honest. (Unless that was just a bunch of rubbish he sold you in order to hide his CLOSET space.)
(i'm back) kazoo
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