Posted by paxvox on August 29, 2001, at 12:02:23
In reply to Argument with my husband , need support, posted by anna on August 28, 2001, at 23:26:49
Anna, I can give you a "mirror image" of the same problem from the male perspective. You can check my earlier posts on family support. I understand exactly how you feel, as I have to get my 6 year old daughter fed, bathed,ready for bed and stories at night. Sometimes it can be as painful as pulling teeth. I know you love your kids, but they would NEVER be better w/o you. Sometimes we have to be firm as a parent, and at certain ages, a little sting on the tail becomes necessary if previous warnings don't work. I have found that at around 4 or 5 that denying them privaledges (that doesn't look spelled correctly) works better than just about anything else. As far as your spouse, more difficult problem. I have found that my spouse does not respond as well to me when I am stressed, especially concerning family necessities. I have to believe that we were put together for a reason, and that we have to find a way to work around our problems. But as someone has told me, don't let them pull you into their own darkness making you all the more depressed. Get yourself "OK" then tell your spouse what you think, ask if he needs help, then go about your business. I realize this is only a truncated version that doesn't exactly apply to your situation. The bottom line, however, is get yourself right so that you can deal with the "normal" problems of life. God knows, there are plenty of them, and they are hard enough to deal with when you are "normal" let alone mentally "challenged" :) like me. Let us know what's going on.
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