Posted by mist on July 16, 2001, at 13:36:24
In reply to Did my job define me?, posted by Greg on July 16, 2001, at 12:45:57
Greg,
Is the worst part that you’re not going to a job everyday? Or is it that you were let go and you see that as a negative judgment about your worth and abilities that you blame yourself for?
Personally, I hate working. Most workplaces have an unhealthy effect on me because there’s too much emphasis on conformity to mainstream values. I dislike the socializing required in offices because I rarely have anything in common with the people I work with.
I define myself according to other aspects of my life. Work is the place I feel the least myself.
Maybe you did define yourself by your job. It’s great that you could get satisfaction from a job though. I wish I could. But maybe you’re going through a kind of withdrawal from it. It might take some time to adjust to the loss.
And no matter what, needing to find a job when you don't have one is not an easy situation for anyone to be in, "workaholic" or not.
-mist
> I posted recently about losing my job. I've tried as hard as I can to not let it bring me down, but my self-esteem has really gone into the toilet. I feel useless, and have no feeling of self worth.
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> I've always been the one at work who is there 14-16 hours a day, works another 8-10 over the weekend. I put everything I have into doing a job correctly. I guess I'm your classic workaholic. Losing my job has left me feeling so empty.
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> My question is, did I allow my job to define who I am? Any thoughts would be appreciated. I'm trying to get this put into perspective before I spiral any further down.
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> Thanks,
> Greg
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