Posted by mist on May 17, 2001, at 2:18:19
In reply to Re: smart or strange?, posted by mist on May 17, 2001, at 0:55:37
Sar,
By the way, when I was younger I didn’t want to know a lot about my therapist. I felt a pressing need to focus on myself and not be distracted by knowledge about the therapist’s life. I also didn’t want them to take time away from me in the session by talking about themselves.
But gradually it started to bother me that I was telling someone so much about what I thought and felt and I didn’t know even how they were reacting to me as a person. They had the standard therapist responses but I didn’t know who they really were behind the mask. I started to question if I could really trust them, especially after one therapist turned out not to be what I had thought she was all along. It wasn’t anything major, but kind of a wake up call.
I started to not like what I felt to be phoniness in therapists. A false veneer. I wanted to know what was behind it. So I started asking some questions occasionally.
I still feel uncomfortable with the idea of telling so much to a virtual stranger who isn’t entirely open about their reaction to me. It’s one of the reasons I’m not in therapy anymore.
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