Posted by shyguy on January 8, 2001, at 1:12:54
A low or nonexistent libido precludes the impetus to develop social skills. I'm 47-years-old and have never been on a date nor felt the desire or need to go on one. I also have a nonexistent repertoire of other emotional responses which may explain the absence of a sexual one. I never get angry, for example. Emotions are largely a learned behavioural response which I don't recall ever being taught, at home or in school. I am not shy in other areas, however. In fact my job requires me to deal with members of the public face to face throughout the day and I have no problem doing this.
Sublimation could be another factor resulting in social/sexual shyness. Fourteen-hour work days tend to supplant interest in anything other than sleep when you get home after a long day at the office.
Family members and work associates say I don't know what I'm missing by not socializing and dating. I guess I have to agree with them. How can you miss something you don't feel a need for in the first place?
Data, the character in the Star Trek series and I seem to have a lot in common in this regard.
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