Posted by Racer on December 12, 2000, at 20:03:40
In reply to thanks for the help with my sister!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by factamala on December 12, 2000, at 9:27:05
Don't stop here! Therapy will make a big difference, but if that's just not going to happen, see if she's willing to write a diary about her cutting and her urge to cut. It will help more than hoping this will just go away will.
I don't cut (anymore), but I did go through a phase long before it was 'popular'. The pain of the cut helped divert attention from the emotional pain I was in. It gave a focus to my pain.
When I gave up cutting myself, though, I found other ways to accomplish the same thing. Those 'other things' didn't kill me, which is a bit of a miracle, but they still devil me now, 25 years later.
It's great that your sister has such a caring big brother, and even better that she has the insight to recognise that this isn't helping her. The best thing of all is that the two of you have a relationship that allows you to communicate about something so difficult. Congratulations for that. You must be a special fellow.
Unless you can be there ALL the time, and protect your sister from EVERYTHING the world has to offer, which you can't ;-), she needs something to help her learn a better coping strategy. Therapy is best, but otherwise, a diary that she can use to gain insight into herself, and maybe share with you or later with a therapist, to help show what sets her off, and maybe figure out a way to shift that to a more healthy response, that might help.
Man, didn't I learn anything about sentences and punctuation? Guess not... Hope you got the gist of that!
Good luck, and blessings to you and your sister.
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