Posted by coral on November 14, 2000, at 13:59:09
In reply to Still miserable!, posted by Racer on November 14, 2000, at 10:46:24
Dear Racer,
Hang in there!!!!!! IMHO, Shar's advice is RIGHT on the money. When, (not if), when you're feeling better, I'll share a horror story of not confiding in my WH. It damned near cost us our marriage. The first episode (due to rotten docs, wrong meds, etc.) was 3 1/2 years with no abatement and a year to heal, once I found the right doc, right med. Thank God I found a superior therapist early on. The second episode which was two months'ish in the "black is a bright color" and "hell looks like up to me" phase, I had the right meds, doc and therapist in place, but I truly believe that snapping it so early was due to a profound commitment by my WH and myself that we were battling the monster together, which meant frequent status reports, reassurances (both ways), and joint decisions.It can be a horribly vicious cycle -- you're down (depressed...), he hurts seeing you hurt and gets upset, you get more down and upset because he's feeling bad, and so it goes. To break the cycle is important.
I don't know any magic words that'll make it stop. Please know that you're not alone in that inky black hell. ((((((((((Racer))))))))))
Coral (CPE)
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