Posted by Hannah on November 10, 2000, at 18:08:12
In reply to Re: OK I'LL STAY!!!!!!!!! - Hannah - All, posted by Greg on November 10, 2000, at 17:09:46
> OK Gang,
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> It seems that my absence has done more harm than good. I thought by pulling away I could help to avoid further inflaming this situation. Once again, I appear to be wrong.
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> I will reiterate this one last time... I meant no harm by my comments.I never thought you were intentionally trying to do harm!
It was an attempt at humor, albeit a poor one apparently. Hannah, I can assure you it was not meant to insult you, stereotype you or make you feel like less of a person. For God sakes, I had never ever heard of you before yesterday. A little background on me. I was raised in a female dominated family and I am thankful for that. I learned from a very young age and on a daily basis about the trials and tribulations a woman goes thru each and every day of my life. I have two daughters of my own and they are intelligent, well-balanced and emotionally independant. I would like to think that I had something to do with that. I could not possibly have more respect for women. Women are amazing people and I am often awed at what you can accomplish (and tolerate) given the odds that have been stacked against you for centuries.
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> I respect your opinion here, and I certainly understand why you feel the way that you do.Thank You!! I respect you and understand yuour positition too.
This was simply a part of a playful thread that got a little out of hand. I have apologized for what I said even though many have told me that I have nothing to apologize for. I felt it necessary to so and I did. But I won't do it again.
And why should you have too? Again I have enormous respect (as I have said before ) for your apology and for your following your own conscience instead of your friends.
I think I've taken more than my fair share of "abuse" over this issue. The Devil has been given his due.
Greg if you feel abused my me I am definitely sorry and it was not my intention. I felt so outnumbered and reviled I may not have been careful enough (although I tried) to separate principle from individual when I was replying to your friends' posts to me. I frankly feel more than sufficiently ill treated myself and hope it stops soon.
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> I consider myself to be a loving, caring and thoughtful individual. I cherish my friends and they I think they feel the same way, especially as evidenced here. I am challenged, as are you I assume by a dis-ease and sometimes I don't say the right things. But I learn from my mistakes and try to grow because of them.Your friends definitely rallied to your support! And they do speak well of you! I have no reason to doubt them! Greg I hope you will read the article I posted a link to on my first post below
http://www.pilot.infi.net/~susanf/emotabus.htm
because I think you will understand my convictions on this topic. I'm not accusing you of it (just the opposite). I don't want the issue of emotional abuse and blaming the victim to get lost because of my personal misadventures here. I gather you are something of a leader here and maybe you can use that information at some future date. I think it's very moving. Thanks for taking me seriously even if I overreacted. It's hard to know when to take a stand.
Peace
Hannah
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