Posted by Racer on October 28, 2000, at 23:06:40
In reply to am I depressed?, posted by judy1 on October 23, 2000, at 13:11:40
I've got good news and bad news, Judy1. I've had at least a dozen miscarriages so far, and I'll tell you that you're going through something normal. The hormonal changes alone will make you feel numb, as nature's way to help you through it, and then you have to grieve. Anyone who says it's stupid to be upset about a miscarriage is male -- not bad, not crazy, not anything other than totally clueless.
Listen, my first miscarriage happened in 1979. I still think about that one, how old he/she would be, the specific emotional 'feel' of him/her. Same with many of the others. There's grieving you ahve to go through.
The good news is that you do get back on your feet and go on. Once your hormones are normal again, you'll feel better and you can start trying again.
As for miscarriages, about 40% of all conceptions end in miscarriage, by current figures, and one theory is that it's much higher than that: that a lot of painful late periods are actually very early miscarriages.
And I'm here to hold on to you: my 'false alarm' led to a period which lasted three times as long as usual, was painful as hell, and I think was actually a very early miscarriage. Here's my hand, hang on to me and I'll hang on to you
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