Posted by Rzip on October 17, 2000, at 12:46:51
In reply to Re: Thank you guys., posted by noa on October 17, 2000, at 7:02:53
>Noa,
I could not have said it better. That is precisely the problem. I do see you guys as a medium between therapists and the outside world. True affection from either parties is unattainable because I am unable to express my true self to them. Thus, I always end up feeling misunderstood.
Some people on this board has pointed out that I am taking up too much of their energy and support. I think you guys have really helped me through a transitional period. I do feel stronger and better today, than a week ago. I have gotten the support that I need. And I have instituted some changes such as cutting back on my work load and becoming a one-on-one tutor with a child from my community. I think that I am going to be quiet for a while now and allow the generous members of this board to help those who are more in need at this moment.Thank you. And I'll keep checking this board and offer whatever assistances I can provide.
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I wanted to add a response to something you said in an earlier thread--about feeling somewhat better since exchanging posts here.
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> It wouldn't surprise me if someone with significant social anxiety who is quite lonely started to feel better after conversing with people here. Online discussions seem tailor made for people with social anxiety. And provide a much needed opportunity to social contact. Besides, this place is a place where you can talk about the very things that usually keep you from socializing.
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> Perhaps this sheds light on some things---you like social interaction, want it, but it causes too much anxiety, so you avoid it (I am drawing on what you have written earlier, if I am incorrect, please let me know). When you encountered helping professionals, you were powerfully drawn to them. could this be the craving of social contact? Perhaps they were more "safe" than peers because they are, in a sense, unattainable (you were told to back off) and they were nice to you and listened to you.
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> But here, you have a place where you can interact and have social contact but still feel somewhat safe, and not overwhelmed by social anxiety.
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> Make sense?
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