Posted by Little Bird KK on August 28, 2008, at 23:38:02
Hi,
I'm kind of new here,so I hope I'm asking the kind of question people here can give me some perspective on. My concern is that I'm 34 years old and I don't have any female friends. I haven't had any female friends in about 5 years that I can hang out with and confide in and its really getting to me. I do have trust issues when it comes to making new friends because all the friends I had in the past ended up treating me bad once they got to know me, by taking out their insecurities on me.
I do have a boyfriend and his mom that I'm grateful for..but I find myself wondering, what if things don't work out between me and my boyfriend? Who can I hang out with then?
When I do meet new women I am skeptical that they will want to hang out with me as a real friend so I end up treating every new woman I meet as just an acquaintance.
I was wondering if anyone can give me some perspective on this matter so I can move on from the bad friends I had in the past and be able to trust a new female as a friend.
It's gotten so bad for me that even when I go to places where I can meet prospective female friends I end up closing myself off from people and just being shy and have short meaningless conversations with people then I feel the need to leave the situation as soon as I can. Like even at church gatherings and such, where I know it's safe to meet new female friends. HELP!
poster:Little Bird KK
thread:848887
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