Posted by NotSoInnocent on April 21, 2008, at 21:39:23
Almost 2 years ago I married my best friend. Sounds great right? Well, recently I have come to realize that it may have been one of my biggest mistakes. I have finally taken some time to look into some issues that keep coming up between us lately, and the more I learn the more unhappy I am. I have noticed in the past few months that I do not feel sexually attracted to my husband. I don't feel any decrease of sexual desire anywhere else, only when I am around him. Whenever I bring this up among friends it is always passed off as a normal part of marriage. So I started looking deeper within myself in hopes to find a solution, or at least an explanation for this situation. To my surprise I realized that I have never felt sexually attracted to him. All throughout our relationship I was having sex with him purely out of friendship, because I care about him and like to see him happy, and not because I desired, or lusted after him. This may not sound like a problem to most people but let me clarify, I am 22 years old. I have a very healthy sexual appetite and I find myself really missing those feelings of passion that normal couples feel (at least once in a while, right?). My husband is a very jealous guy and would never go for the idea involving me being anything more than polite to another man, but lately he is offended and angry that I would even pleasure myself without his participation. We are considering sex therapy to try and find some sort of a happy medium, but I honestly can't see myself ever being sexually fulfilled while staying in the boundaries of a monogamous marriage. Is our marriage doomed?
poster:NotSoInnocent
thread:824704
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