Posted by Kellie on February 14, 2007, at 21:51:41
In reply to Re: Had another argument with Mom » Deneb, posted by annierose on February 10, 2007, at 20:09:51
I can relate to how you feel my mom is the same way with me. The more she calls the less I feel like doing anything that day. I know she cares about me and is scared for me but, she doesn't see that it is not helping.
The hard thing is that I am a mom too and it puts a strain on my relationship with my daughter when my mom over mothers me. Even though I know that she cares I can't help but feeling that she calls so much because she is worried that somehow my illness is her fault. She doesn't suffer from depression, or have the other problems I do so she only feels that I could just get up and get over it. Not talking to your mom probably isn't the answer though and for me I realized that getting her to understand isn't happening either. I dedided to get rid of my answering machine (because she'd leave upwards of twenty messages saying stuff like "it;s time to get up" and crap on it, then I set up a schedule of mom duty time I call it where I talk to her, then once a week I visit and play nice. It is sometimes hard to keep but, I've learned that it is easier than the alternative.
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