Posted by DannaB on January 30, 2007, at 23:23:29
Well, I've been posting recently about my relationship difficulties. We made it 5 months, at least. Our relationship problems were very similar to Carrie and Burger on Sex and the City. We just don't communicate well. The "good" is so good...in fact, it's hard for me to imagine not having him in my life. But the "bad" is the extreme of defensiveness and being misunderstood.
I know I'm needy, but on the other hand I don't ask for a lot. I ask him to call me during the week and he claims he's too busy. I only ever see him on the weekend. This doesn't work for me. But whenever I tell him about this or any other concern, he tells me why my feelings are wrong. He is impatient and he doesn't want to compromise in any way.
Objectively, I can see that I am not the only person he is so stubborn with (I can tell from his last serious relationship that he was the same way) but I still feel this is another "failure" on my part. Besides for that, I just feel sad and lonely because I have very little else going on in my life to fulfill me or make me happy.
Sigh. I'm really bummed. In a way though, it does feel like a weight has been lifted because I know in my heart he wasn't right for me. I've never felt so misunderstood by anyone than I have in this relationship. Even so, I can just about guarantee that I'm going to go into a depression and blame myself for it...
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