Posted by kaylen on November 25, 2006, at 14:01:53
In reply to what the f*ck is love?, posted by crushedout on November 24, 2006, at 15:28:30
Hi, I think love is pushed around to appear it has all kinds of definitions...but i believe bottom line is when you truly have very strong careing feelings about someone/animal/thing....your willing to go out of your way to help/defend/stand by/be with someone...especially if you without any motives to gain anything for yourself you want these people to be happy.. And no I don't believe you can feel this way ALL the time ....no way with your parents....no matter how good they parent they are going to piss you off ...and if they are bad parents your certainly not going to love them all the time ...and quite possibly never and i know too many parents that do not deserve thier childrens love...and I don't believe a child has to love their mom and dad...in fact it can be easy to hate them...if you are abused ...i was not abused and i can remember for short periods of time feeling hatred..toward my mom and/or dad...kids are born totaly self centerd ...we dont even know were not the only things on earth ...we want what we want and we want it yesterday...and our parents are supposed to read our minds cuz all we can do is cry sh*t p*ss and sleep....thats how we arrive ...and parents have the nasty job of teaching us .....hey baby...you aint the end all be all ...your not always going to get what you want ..your going to have to share things... time...us your parents....with OTHER PEOPLE!!!..your going to have to mind me ..and have RULES .....and they gotta do this as lovingly as possible....it isn't easy ..and there is bound to be bad feelings from both sides at times.. nothing to feel guilty about.And ya most of the time your going to love them ..and to love your parents are BASICLY close to what i described above...of course there are diferent kinds of love but we will leave that alone for now...If your feeling hate from abuse...they deserve it and you must get away....are you being abused?
I hope not and I hope my answer is close to what you where asking!!!..I am concerned for you ..and I am by no means one to give advice or answers...all I can speak for is myself ...and it is just my opinion and ill be the first to say ..maybe im not right...for someone eles ..but I am right for me. Please let me know how your doing or if I am on the right tract here with my answer...I do my best to leave my ego behind ..im not into trying to sound hip...slick...and cool...I am not ..and frankly don't care...im here for help...and really greatfull to get it and when i can help someone eles ..im really really greatful!!!
Peace
kaylen
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