Posted by curtm on April 21, 2006, at 9:14:48 [reposted on April 24, 2006, at 12:14:50 | original URL]
In reply to Re: dealing with passive aggression, posted by wishingstar on April 21, 2006, at 8:34:07
> This is definitely not the best possible advice, and I'm sure someone else will have other good ideas, but..
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> I usually just ignore it completely (when possible) or take the statement at complete face value. In my experience, people usually increase it for a few days, a a few weeks at most.. and then it stops completely (or almost anyway). I just pretend not to even hear the underlying passive-aggressive stuff. Like if someone said to me, "well I know you hate me so I guess I'll just <do whatever>" I might just say "I'm sorry you feel like that" rather than trying to argue or convince them otherwise, which was probably the goal of their passive-aggressive statement to begin with. Then they arent getting any reward out of doing it. It makes them mad, but it has worked for me. Good luck. Passive-aggressive behavior can be incredibly frustrating, as I'm sure you know!* You are absolutely right. don't play into the negativity. It will only make things worse. Kinda funny to me because you are the rational one, just like my wife, and I am the negative one. Deja vous. LOL
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