Posted by Susan47 on February 5, 2006, at 14:52:20
In reply to Re: Sex Ed 101: Women; You still there? » Susan47, posted by Larry Hoover on February 4, 2006, at 23:42:45
> > Oh, my I am SO HAPPY to hear you say men find our breasts a source of pleasure.
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> I'm glad you feel that way. I sure enjoy a woman's breasts. However, it's not necessarily reciprocal, right? One partner I had as much as told me to not bother with her breasts, as she had no sensation there. It's confusing, unless there is open communication. That's what I'm speaking in advocacy of, open communication. Sexual partners need to communicate, to describe individual traits and likes and dislikes and all that. I'm not a mind reader, but I am a very committed listener/observer. If I'm leaving something out, it does neither of us any service to fail to speak up about it. Only too happy to oblige, ya know.
The problem is though that a lot of men, most in fact, dive right in without taking their time to find out what we like, and they do this little performance thing, and then you HAVE to be diplomatic, I mean, what would a woman say, no your tongue isn't strong enough, you need to do tongue workouts baby, here let me help you? Actually, that isn't a bad one, I might try that next time. But nice, normal people all have very delicate, sensitive egos and once they've performed, it's tricky. Which is why it's always always always a good idea to go fast, then slow, then relax where you KNOW you're bringing pleasure, and always go slow when not sure. I mean, really slow. Most men can't do that. Don't have the patience.
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> > It's so so so important to know that you're giving your partner pleasure, it revs you up and I know I sure as hell love having mine played with to the nth degree, in fact, I HATE having to beg for breast stimulation, I want the man I'm with to love touching me, not just there but all of me .. and it's so fantastic feeling the same way about him, too ..
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> Agreed.
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> > so Larry I have a question for you, do men love being touched as much as we love touching them? And where, I mean, it isn't JUST there is it?
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> It matters *how* I'm being touched, too. It's not just *there*, no. Any part of me can be erogenous, in the hands of a skillful and thoughtful partner.Ew, I like that. Yessir I certainly do like the way you've put that, Larry.
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> > I love to kiss and nibble and suck on earlobes and necks.. lobes are so effing sexy in my mouth ... do men love that as much as we do?
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> I will not generalize.....I've tried to not do so throughout my reply. I like it. I also like to kiss and nibble necks and lobes, I especially like it, if I know that it is in fact pleasurable. It wouldn't be too hard to figure out, though, if I came up behind you, and warmed the nape of your neck with my breath, as my nose slid upwards nearer your lobe, my lips dragging warm kisses up behind your ear.
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> Lar
Yes, and don't forget the nose touching the face when you're kissing, I totally love that, and when you're with someone exciting and lovely and kind, very kind and intelligent, it's addictive. Really, really addictive, to be physically together. Nice to not get too much of each other, either and nice to have other things in life, exciting and good, but especially great to share. I wonder if I'll ever have that. Hmh.
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