Posted by TamaraJ on November 7, 2005, at 20:30:17
In reply to Re: Do you ever think that just being yourself isn » TamaraJ, posted by Dinah on November 6, 2005, at 10:45:36
> I've never been one to play the game, and I've always felt like an outsider. I actually warn people before they meet me.
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-- I don't know how people do for years and years and years. It must be exhausting. It's better to be upfront with people. You are genuine, and that's important, I think.> We had a long discussion a while back on Babble that made me think. About whether conforming is a form of showing respect for others, I think. It did make me think, but I'm still as eccentric as ever.
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-- But, conforming to please others and sacrificing one's individuality may also be a sign of disrespect, I think. Of course, I guess when it comes to certain areas, like the workplace, there has to be a certain amount of conformity. But, if it causes much personal angst, then I would think it would be time to move on and find a more accepting environment.> And I guess I'm not altogether sure what my motivations are. Am I afraid that I couldn't pretend well enough to be someone else? Is it because I'm too stubborn to want acceptance unless it's acceptance for who I truly am? Or am I just lazy?
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-- Perhaps it is none of the above. It needs to be ok to just be ourselves, and if others don't like that, then maybe their motivations need to be examined at times.
> I think being yourself should be good enough for anyone, Tamara. You're perfectly fine as you are.-- Thank you very much, Dinah. As are you, and, you are very kind too.
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