Posted by Tamar on October 23, 2005, at 15:32:14
In reply to Feeling lonely, posted by sal0805 on October 22, 2005, at 13:10:13
> There is still a small voice saying 'what about me?'
Maybe your husband needs to hear that voice. It’s entirely possible that he doesn’t understand how lonely you feel. Perhaps he believes that your son is company for you, but of course you need some adult company on a regular basis.
It’s not an easy thing to talk about, but if you can think of something you want to do (with friends, with him, on your own, or whatever) it’s easier than simply complaining that you feel neglected. If you had some definite ideas it would probably be easier for him to agree to them.
Also… is there a reason why you don’t drive? Could you learn to drive? I know there are sometimes medical reasons, and some people firmly believe they’d be dangerous behind the wheel of a car, but if you don’t fall into either of those categories perhaps you could learn. If would give you a lot more freedom. I know it can be expensive, but I think it’s an investment in the future… and if your husband goes out a lot, perhaps you could afford it if he cut back on his out time.
My husband also likes his independence and I find it hard sometimes now that we have three kids. But if I didn’t get out too I suspect we would no longer be married…
Tamar
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