Posted by Mal on October 12, 2005, at 7:37:12
In reply to If you were planning a divorse what would you do?, posted by happyflower on October 8, 2005, at 21:03:47
My friend is leaving her husband at the end of this month. He has been emotionally abusing her for their 20 year marriage. (He has fits of rage that don't include violence toward her, but he is a control freak and blames her for any little thing that goes wrong, screams at her, etc.) I have known her for around 10 years and she has never seemed happy to me. Fortunately, no kids, and VERY fortunately- a terrifically understanding employer. She has talked to an attourney, an apt. leased, opened her own checking acct. They have been really wise with their money, so she will take out half their checking and half their savings when she leaves. And her opportunity to leave comes up- her husband will be out of town for a week and she just won't be there when he returns. SHe is hoping to avoid any confrontation that might get violent that way. SHe is also going to take the first few days off work and take alittle trip so as to thwart any effort he might make at ambushing her at her car after work. I think she is doing her thing the safest way it can be done, but I am still full of anxiety for her. ANyway, those are things for you to think about, too.
Hope it's helpful-
MAL
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