Posted by AdaGrace on October 10, 2005, at 8:35:11
In reply to Re: For Pete's Sake » Damos, posted by AdaGrace on October 10, 2005, at 8:12:42
I'd appologize, but I'm not sure to whom. You? or all the men in the world?
Obviously you are offended, and for that I appoligize.
However, I am having difficulty with the comment of "little boys hearing this about grown men" comment. I'm raising a "little boy" with virtually no disciplinary help from my husband. I'll have to say, that "little boy" has more respect for me than he has ever shown to have for his father. Albeit, I stress every day how his words and actions are disrespectful to his father, and he is getting better. But I think the problem lies in his observances of his father's lack of initiative and drive. Perhaps "little boys" are underated in regards to their ability to digest information from their physical surroundings. Maybe, just maybe, they already know that there is a "war" so to speak out there between men and women and will be able to bridge the gap.
I do not agree that this comment is similar to a racist comment. It's a gender generalization, I'll admit that. Guess I should have said "Most of the men I have met should be shipped back to Mars." No, if the comment was turned around to state "Women, should be shipped back to Venus" I would not be offended. Because I know that it's a generalization and not specifically about me. It could be about me, especially if stated by one of my ex's. But I wouldn't see it as a personal slam. I do not think that gender generalizations are any comparison to racist comments. Period.
You have the right to your opinion as well as I do. We have the right to disagree.
Growing up and living in Small Town Middle America, i.e., the Midwestern United States, I find it a little slower on the uptake here. Not so many "equal rights for women" marches going on here. Not too many women mayors, doctors, lawyers, etc. Oportunity for advancement still seems to be related to our ability to look good in a skirt and high heels. Pretty barbaric actually. Not your fault I live in a less socially advanced society than some others. However, I must really state that it would appear to me that in my situation, feminism backfired. "I can bring home the bacon, and fry it up in the pan." You see, I have found that getting a degree, getting a high paying job just put more demands on me regarding my "regular" wifely and motherly duties, as well as the pressure of bringing home a paycheck. Also in my case, the more i made, the more I did, the less my husband made, and the less my husband did. Just my situation. Not everybodys. But I hope you will excuse me when I sound a tad bitter.
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