Posted by Tamar on October 1, 2005, at 19:26:26
In reply to Can Lovers be Friends?, posted by AdaGrace on October 1, 2005, at 8:26:06
> After they are no longer lovers?
Well, anything is possible. But I think it would be difficult to go from friends to lovers and then back to platonic friendship. Nevertheless, if both of you are up to the challenge, you might be able to do it.
I reckon you would have to be completely honest, though, both with yourself and with your friend. Are you absolutely certain the love affair is over? Can you accept that the love affair is over, or are you hoping you might become sexually involved again? Are you absolutely certain the thing you really want is friendship? Is there a danger that your feelings about the end of the sexual part of it might intrude in the newly established friendship? If you have mixed feelings about it then you can probably be friends, but you might need to take it very slowly.
If you haven’t seen each other for a year you might be able to do it. But it will be hard if you’re still feeling hurt and confused about the end of the relationship. I hope you’re able to work it out together.
Good luck!
Tamar
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