Posted by alesta on August 31, 2005, at 9:27:55 [reposted on August 31, 2005, at 22:27:51 | original URL]
to anyone listening..:)..i'm in a real bind here and just need to get this off my chest..here goes..
since i broke up with my ex, i have started dating 3 guys at once...you would think this would be fun, right? it really sucks, because i have actually fallen in love with 2 of them (and am strongly attracted to but not in love with the third)..
the first one, we'll call him mike, is perfectly compatible with me, i have a feeling. our relationship is based on a strong friendship, and i am attracted to him. i know i would feel the most comfortable with him, which is really important to me..i know he would accept my faults and quirks more readily, which is essential, lol...
but then there's this other guy, we'll call him nathan, who is not so compatible in the long run, but i am crazy about him. i have a really strong attraction for him. i think he would be okay with staying friends..i am not sure he will understand about me ending up with the other guy, who i was dating first (nathan does know about mike). both mike and nathan want me to move in with them (i know..not necessarily a good idea to move so fast..anyway..) i just hate the thought of letting nathan go..it makes me so sad to think about it..i know the concept of male/female friendships might be a fallacy, but i am willing to do that, and i *think* nathan is, too...i just don't know. i am sad. i wonder if *I* will be okay with that.
now i know why i never really liked the idea of dating more than one guy at once..i am heartbroken that i have to let one go..it feels awful..it is the worst..i hope nathan will go for the whole friendship thing..or maybe something else will happen that's better than that..i'm not sure what i'm sayin'..anyway..thanks for listening.
love to ya,
amy :)
poster:alesta
thread:549484
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