Posted by 64bowtie on August 30, 2005, at 13:23:45
In reply to Re: Responsibility, Accountability, and Leadership » 64bowtie, posted by crazy teresa on August 29, 2005, at 15:46:45
Thanx for your response... I won't cross swords with anything he does submit as useful to recovery... I do find myself wanting since he leaves out 'Citizenship', something that some therapists don't seem to see as important... Another concern of mine is how he flatly encourages CHANGE, yet I have found that to be the citidel of all and any recovery... I found the hardest thing for clients to overcome is their own inertia... Ergo, any change takes an enormous amount of energy to initiate... No matter if the client is not moving at all, moving fast, or spinning out of control, change is necessary and begins, very grudgingly...
The culprit is our inborn/innate 'avoidance-of-dissatisfaction', which causes infants to cry out when hungry or wet (diaper), young adults to complain, grumble and gossip, and the elderly shame and blame others while avoiding outside contact...
This 'avoidance-of-dissatisfaction' has the sublime effect of blocking change, any change that we might entertain... In effect, we see any change coming our way as a LOSS; 'CHANGE MEANS LOSS', at a visceral level, a level beyond our the control of our feelings...
Like I said I am not crossing swords, but expressing concern that his book doesn't go far enough into the subject of change...
Again, thanx for adding Dr. Cloud's book to the discussion...
Rod
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