Posted by 64bowtie on August 26, 2005, at 20:51:36
In reply to Overly needy friend, posted by Sonya on August 24, 2005, at 14:56:47
...and »Sonya» you can't expect to have your boundaries respected by someone who has either a lacking of self-respect or poor boundary management...
Give her an assignment (task), let's say, to introduce herself to 10 new people and give her 2 weeks to accomplishe it... Have her journal about each one... Let her know that you want her to 'symbolically' bring those 10 people to that next meeting 2 weeks hence; to learn enough about those people so its as if they are really here...
If she doesn't ask, don't volunteer to do the same... When the next time comes, ask her to tell you about her 3 favorites...
She needs to get out and over herself and there is no quicker way than to meet strangers... Mark my words, If she fails to meet 10, or even 5, she may put you off till later... And, please don't let her know you only are going to ask about her 3 favorites... Let her assume that when you say 10, you mean 10!!!
Rod
PS: This is only a suggestion (that works)... She is your acquaintance... You know her better than I...
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