Posted by Mijafelix on July 18, 2005, at 18:37:47
In reply to Re: My meth addicted husband, posted by Susan47 on July 15, 2005, at 20:39:21
> > (I have a meth addicted husband, we ahve been married for 6 years and he has been using on and off for 10 years, until just recently, the last 1.5year he has been hiding his addiction from me and basically his entire family.)
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> I'm wondering what it was like when you knew. How was it different from now? HE IS ADDMITTING IT, THAT'S WHAT'S DIFFERENT, NOT TO MENTION I FOUND IT AND ACTUALLY HEARD WITH MY OWN EARS HIM CALLING AROUND FOR IT
> Is this "ruining" just happening now, or do you think it's been happening the entire time?IT HAS BEEN RUINING MY LIFE, I AHD MANY ASPIRATIONS, THINGS I WANTED TO DO IN LIFE, THINGS I WANTED TO ACCOMPLISH, I AHVE LET THEM ALL TAKE A BACKSEAT TO HELPING HIM, SUPPORTING HIM
> Were you ever addicted to meth, yourself? NO
Were you both addicted at one time? ONLY HIM, I'VE NEVER TRIED IT
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> (It is ruining our marriage and family, we have 2 kids. He says he wants help, but won't call any of the numbers i give him to get help.)
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> Maybe he wants help but isn't strong enough to get it. Getting helps takes huge, gigantic amounts of courage. I THINK YOUR RIGHT ABOUT THAT!
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> (I love and want to support him through this hard time but am at my witts end. I can't take it anymore, he is so needy, mean, direspectful and rude that i i want to leave him but i know he will make my life so miserable, i also don't want to see him end up dead.)
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> Is this an emotional neediness or a physical one.. I guess they're both emotional... Does he work? JUST GOT A REAL JOB END OF LAST MONTH, FIRST ONE IN 3YEARS, PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY, COOKING, CLEANING, ORGANIZING, I WORK A 9 -5 JOB AND FEEL LIKE I AHVE 3 KIDS NOT JUST 2, MEANING HE IS LIKE A CHILD AT TIMES
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> (Anyone have any suggesions? This is only one of my issues, i am obviously co-dependent, or I would already be gone, my mother was killed by a drunk driver 12/10/03 - still dealing with linger depression from that)
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> That's so sad, I'm so sorry, I hope you're getting therapy with that, good therapy that's helping ... Mijafelix... What does that mean? It's interesting. THANKS FOR TAKING THE TIME TO POST AND ASK INSIGHTFUL ??'S MIJA = LITTLE ONE, IN SPANISH, KIND OF A TERM OF ENDEARMENT ELDERS CALL YOUNGER ONES AND FELIX WELL THAT WAS MY MAIDEN NAME
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