Posted by sunny10 on May 5, 2005, at 8:04:24
In reply to Re: when it rains, it freaking pours » alesta, posted by Damos on May 4, 2005, at 19:43:25
I'm not sure if this is the case with you, but I find that I engage in "toxic misunderstandings" when I am bringing old angers/fears/triggers into new relationships.(No, I never realize this at the time of the misunderstanding, but when I related the entire to someone else, I found myself saying things like "It was just like when so-and-so did such-and-such to me".) I was sabotaguing every relationship by not letting the new person be him. I was making the new guy into a compilation of every other guy who hurt me- all the way back to good-ole dad...
Does that sound like something you do, too? If so,
I go to my first anger management therapy session today... I'll let you know how it goes...-sunny10
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