Posted by sunny10 on March 29, 2005, at 9:27:07
In reply to divorce, posted by Eileen Smith on March 28, 2005, at 21:52:36
I have been doing a lot of reading about addiction because of my SO's use.
I read that life after addiction needs to include activities and hobbies to replace the addiction. Have you been doing this?
If you have, it may be that he needs to be needed and you aren't fitting the bill anymore- he may be co-dependent. Maybe he just really needs to know that you rely on him in other ways now.
And maybe the issues are really his now. Talk to your therapist about this stuff. I only know (and am spouting) what I've been reading... your T will know how to figure out if my assumptions are even relevant in your case.
I struggle with a fear of abandonment, so I know how painful a divorce can be. Even if you're not even sure you love that person anymore...
This is a lot of difficult stuff. You beat an addiction; you are strong and will get through this too, one way or the other.
Here are some hugs to help you (((((Eileen))))))
Keep posting and let us know how you are making out with this stuff...
-sunny10
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