Posted by sunny10 on February 10, 2005, at 11:03:40
In reply to Re: PB as SO » sunny10, posted by Toph on February 9, 2005, at 21:38:50
sounds like you need to eradicate the self-loathing relationship... Once that's underway, the happiness one that you're separated from will probaly come back.
It is very difficult for happiness to live alongside of loathing...
My SO admitted to me that he was glad that I was working through my own self-esteem issues because he needed assurance that he would not have to supply the relationship energy by himself forever.
He admitted that during my low periods, I was extremely difficult to be around- very energy sapping for him- it brought him down, too.Granted, he had to promise me that he would work on HIS issues as well, 'cause I refused to give over all of MY newly-earned energy when he was acting like an alpha male jerk. He laughed, said I must be feeling better already, and promised also.
Didn't you say that "happiness" had her own issues, too? Is she working on them at this point? Do you guys talk about that when you get together?
Rooting for you on this one, Toph...
-sunny10
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