Posted by mair on February 8, 2005, at 17:15:44
In reply to Re: Dinah??? » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on February 8, 2005, at 8:36:49
Sorry to butt in, but how would this distress him? Is it the idea of not being there himself to guarantee your safety?
My husband, I think, just wouldn't be able to comprehend why I would want to fly half way across the country to spend time with a bunch of people I don't know. (given my social unease, it's a legitimate question). Maybe he'd be afraid that hanging around with people with mental illnesses would make me pathologize myself. I think he likes to forget that I have an illness. I don't know; I'm just speculating. He might think it's an expensive junket I shouldn't feel like I can afford. His sister lives near Chicago so I'd have a place to stay, but I'd for sure have to lie to his sister about why I was there. She lives in the very rational world.
And I can see him wanting to know exactly where we were meeting and how I was going to get to the park, if that's where we would meet. He grew up in one of the north suburbs and lived in the city for quite awhile; he has pretty strong ideas about what places are safe and what aren't.
What do you think your husband is afraid of?
Mair
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