Posted by Caleb96 on February 7, 2005, at 2:22:01
My wife blindsided me a week ago. She said she wants to separate and go home to Virginia. We just adopted a beautiful baby girl from China two years ago. This is tearing me apart. There's no "other" person involved, no alcohol or substance abuse, no physical abuse--she just said she doesn't love me anymore and wants to leave. She refuses to talk about it and won't consider counseling. She's made up her mind that this is the best thing for both of us, and she want to be with her family.
We're fixing up the house to put it on the market. She's already dividing things up. I'm still living in the house because I have no where to go except to my parent's house in north Georgia--275 miles away, and a long drive through the mountains on winding roads. I can't get the house ready to sell if I'm in Georgia, so I've been sleeping in the basement with my two large dogs.
This whole thing has devastated me--I'm an emotional wreck. We've been together 13 years and have had a good relationship even though we recently we've had some tough times. I suffer from depression and take medication that makes my mood emotionally flat. I've also been unemployed for 1 1/2 years, even though I have graduate degrees--the economy here in N. Carolina has been terrible for the last couple of years. I've tried to get a good job like I used to have, but I've had no luck.
I can't believe this is happening to me--I love her very much and I want to stay together. I told her I'm going to follow her to VA because I want to be near my daughter.
I just want to die. I haven't eaten in days--I've lost 15 pounds in the past 10 days. I've also had some suicidal ideation. I've been wanting to take my 9 mm gun out of my safe just to hold it. The only thing that's keeping me from going through with it is my faith in God, my doctor friends who are giving me support, and my love for my family. But I still want to die--I can't see any hope for the future. I don't want to live alone and I can't take the though of losing my wife. I just wish she'd be willing to try to get help to save our marriage.
Thanks for taking time to read about my troubles.
Caleb
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