Posted by leendee on December 9, 2004, at 9:29:16
In reply to Re: See, here's the delima, posted by AdaGrace on December 9, 2004, at 6:41:00
AdaGrace
Yes, I know that it's up to you to decide how long it might take before it's right to knock again, or if the door will or will not open.
But remember that the person "not opening the door" has reasons.
Maybe he looks sad ---not because he wants you to break the door down or wishes he could open it--- but because your relationship is over and HE knows he has to move on.
Maybe he knows that although you spent wonderful time together, it's not going to resume and he doesn't want you wasting your time. Who knows?
Rembember that right now, you are the person guessing his feelings/thoughts, and you may believe you know, but the truth may not be what you believe.
And the time you spend waiting may be crucial time you could have spent healing and/or looking for that other, open door.
I know what you mean; i have waited plenty until i had the strength to walk away.
But the balance of waiting/moving on will tip towards what is right for you at some point, and you will know when time comes----that is, if you remain open to your feelings.
and you know, that includes your feelings of anger, perhaps disguised as guilt. You still don't mention any anger.... Is it there?
It can be a powerful source of energy.
good luck and thanks for replying
best
Leendee
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