Posted by AuntieMel on December 7, 2004, at 16:26:58
In reply to » AuntieMel » Now that we have the correct forum, posted by 64bowtie on December 7, 2004, at 1:52:54
Interesting.....I'm not sure if I agree with some of your definitions. Let me try to put in words (difficult these days) my take on your six.
1) Garden variety - hardly garden variety. This is the goal of romance novels - pure romantic love without conditions. Some would call it a myth: it exists, but unselfish romantic love is indeed rare. However repeatedly using the phrase "I love you" in this case can render the phrase meaningless.
2) Child/parent - unconditional - I can't expound there.
2A) Best friend love. Also unconditional, but not maternal/paternal or romantic.
3) Child to parent when wanting something. In this case there is no actual love involved - it's just a tool. Much like the boyfriend saying "if you love me you will....."
4) Love of an inanimate object. Yes, folks, it can be done. I love my '72 opel gt in the same way. And many, many other objects that remind me of different times.
5) "luv ya hon' - no meaning, it's just an expression. like saying adios or howdy. It does, however, have the potential to be misunderstood by someone wanting more.
Now number 6. I don't think this gets a separate number. I think it's the same as 3. Use of the word in order to get something you want.
There is also "I Love chocolate" and "Don't you just love this weather" - none of them are love, they are speech laziness.
I'm sure there are many, many, more, but it's a word I don't toss around lightly so I've probably put them on "ignore."
Weren't we also talking about mature love as opposed to the others. I remember you saying children were incapable of mature love because it required logic and higher thinking.
Mel {the name is Melanie, but my friends call me Mel. Both of them}
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