Posted by sunny10 on November 30, 2004, at 8:16:00
In reply to Re: Wow! I said it! » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on November 29, 2004, at 22:55:22
couldn't have said it better myself....
These things are mostly genetic (and besides PTSD)or nurtured illnesses.
Why aren't we allowed to say this stuff out loud? All the T's I've spoken with call saying this stuff out loud "the blame game". If we have been victim to this stuff (and most of us have BECOME this stuff as we aged) why AREN'T we allowed to get it off our chests and out of our minds???
Any response to that, gg??
Dinah, you're amazing. It sounds like you and your husband are trying to do the best for your son, and that divorce is not even on the table. That's good. You may want to consider family counselling to include your son, with the T guiding you age appropriately, in the discussions about how hard, on all of you, it is to be losing parents/grandparents.
That way Junior doesn't get left behind, emotionally. I've been "left behind" in my past- I've worn those faces you've shown him in the mirror. Mostly I just needed to be included... maybe that's what he needs.
GG, what do your studies say about this stuff? Do you think family counselling would help Dinah's little family?
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