Posted by sunny10 on October 8, 2004, at 9:38:34
In reply to Does anyone else feel a need for his partner..., posted by Colleen D. on October 8, 2004, at 9:02:57
> to acknowledge anniversaries of special days in your time together? By acknowledge, I mean recognizing that the anniversary exists. I don't mean recognizing them by exchanging gifts, etc.
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> Yesterday was our 9th wedding anniversary and it came and went without notice. My husband mentioned that it was coming up a couple weeks ago, but dropped the thought and left it at that.
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> I am continually disappointed when he doesn't remember events like these. I'm not dissappointed enough to do a downward spiral into depression, but my disappointment make me think there is something wrong with our relationship and that I need to move on. I would like to find someone who regards me as their friend and do the tings friends do for each other like remembering special days in our lives.
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> How can one "move on" with children who are 5, 2 and 1? Or how can I get over this and accept that this is par for the course?
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> Thanks for listening!
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> Colleen
> PPD, GAD and OCD
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Unfortunately, most men are like this- you're lucky he even thought to mention it all all!!!No point throwing him back over this, as you won't get another one that's any better at it!
This is one you'll have to "get over"-- although you could put up a calendar on the fridge and write them all in yourself with huge red hearts on the correct dates... Men don't go long without opening the fridge, either.
This approach worked for me !
-sunny10
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