Posted by tinydancer on October 3, 2004, at 9:56:30
In reply to How to inform new partner - lifelong depression?, posted by Sammybabe on October 1, 2004, at 14:48:34
I have always struggled with this one and sought a lot of advice because I have a very "scary" history and a "scary" diagnosis. When exactly is it a good time to say, "I love you and by the way I hear voices?" (giggle)
My mom gave me a wise piece of advice once. She said, "Tiny, you don't OWE anyone explanations of your past. If you CHOOSE to tell them that is your own decision, but no one is entitled to information about your past and history."
Maybe it sounds kind of harsh, but I liked it and felt freer in a way. It allowed me to let people to get to know me first and feel unburdened about it. Because its true: You don't owe an explanation to anyone about your past and history.
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