Posted by westin on September 18, 2004, at 11:08:54
In reply to Welcome!, posted by Dr. Bob on September 17, 2004, at 17:56:07
Hi i guess i am the one to start things off on this board and like Dr Bob i believe that interpersonal relationships,being discussed, are important for all people both those that have been truamatised and their partners.
3 yrs ago i met a kind,compassionate,intelligent caring woman who had been terribly hurt both as a child and then as an adult.
We felt we had known each other forever when we first met and our relationship blossomed and she began to trust me.Subsequently she opened up to me and told me about the abuse she had suffered.Initially i could cope with the information but then the dam burst and one day i woke up in such a rage at the people who had hurt her.I sought advice and calmed down but the anger i had felt scared me.I tried not to allow the anger to affect us and to a greater degree i succeeded.However i knew that i could no longer cope alone.W being the intelligent person she is realised this and withdrew from talking to me.The problem then arose that she believed she would have to deal with things herself and when she did this she did not take her effexor.
Then the DID returned and i found myself trying to keep her alive by talking to the different parts of her personality that was dominant at that time.We did continue to make progress and were happy most of the time(when w was on the effexor).W has tried to talk to councellors and psychologists but does not maintain contact for long.
The problem which has arose in the past few weeks is that w has been so angry all the time.Is making unfounded accusations to me and appears to hate me.She has also been violent;after ensuring it was not going to be returned.
From being supportive of each other in the last few weeks we have been anything but.I feel i am being torn to shreds:One day w can't live without me and loves me the next she is trying to"destroy" me,like i destoyed "her".I believe that the DID has returned and she is afraid to talk to me about it.
I do know that the relationship is foundering and i don't know why.If anyone can help me to understand what is going on i would be very grateful as i love her dearly but she is making me resent her.
Westin
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