Posted by baseball55 on April 9, 2019, at 18:05:25
In reply to Re: new name : therapist support, posted by rjlockhart37 on April 5, 2019, at 23:11:47
> i think being a better person with or without a therapist is the best way to go, yes talking about past things that left an imprint. But i've gotta make myself better, and not complain. Making a model to live up too, and making new characteristics to be ready for better life
The thing is that it's hard to know what it means to be a better person or change characteristics without some objective observer to witness this. Our subjective appraisal of ourselves is often wrong. The benefit of therapy is that you have a non-judgemental objective witness (who also offers compassion) to help you figure out if you are meeting your goals.
Many people criticize therapists as being unhelpful, but the truth is that therapists can only be as helpful as you allow them to be. if you are convinced you can do it all yourself or that the problem is just needing better meds or the that you don't really want to change or that you are numbing yourself with drugs or alcohol, there's not really much a therapist can do. Some will keep seeing you any way. Most, probably. But my psychiatrist is pretty harsh here. If you're not willing/able to be honest and try to change, then he will just say "this isn't working" and refer you to someone with more patience.
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