Posted by baseball55 on October 31, 2014, at 20:31:12
In reply to Re: Crush on Doctor, posted by oceansun on October 30, 2014, at 20:33:58
I was so in love with my psychiatrist that I could barely stand it. It wasn't erotic love. More like a child feels toward a parent. But it consumed me. I talked to him about it a lot. I had too. I couldn't see him without telling him how much I loved him. Sometimes I thought I would die from unrequited love.
But he and I talked about it over and over and over again. He encouraged me to see another therapist for DBT and I talked to her about it and that actually helped quite a bit, because just he and I talking about he and I had gotten pretty solipsistic.
It took me a long time to work through this. Seven or eight years. I now see him every 6 weeks. I don't really need to see him, but I still love him so much that I don't want to end the relationship until he ends it by retiring (he's 75). But it's no longer painful for me. I love him and I love seeing him and always leave his office on a cloud.
I hope this is your outcome. To be able to love your doctor without pain and while acknowledging the limits of the relationship.
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