Posted by Dinah on April 7, 2014, at 21:10:49
In reply to Re: Ugh, so sorry, posted by yellowbird01 on April 7, 2014, at 18:59:31
That is bizarre. No explanation at all other than it wasn't you? Well of course it wasn't. It was her!
I really did get to trust that he cared about me. It's hard to shake that certainty.
It would really be my first guess that his license was in jeopardy and he wasn't able to contact clients except that it all happened so suddenly. Licensing board actions take years, not days. He didn't seem particularly worried or stressed that Tuesday and he was gone by the following Monday. Unless I totally missed his mood for once because I wasn't paying attention. But honestly, I don't think he's a good enough actor to have hidden a long term worry about licensure.
I still can't imagine how referred therapist would be so certain he wasn't returning unless it was license related though. How can you be sure, even if someone moves, that they won't skype or do phone therapy? Not that she said she was certain. She just said she didn't think he'd be back. But I darn well hope she wouldn't say that lightly. All she said was that he wasn't dying. But she did say it with enough force that I inferred that it wasn't anything like that. But then I was a total mess. I don't at all trust my inferring.
How have you dealt with the loss? Did you eventually give up trying to find out what happened? I can't see myself easily doing that. Did you find a therapist to help you get over therapy? It seems like such a similar situation.
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