Posted by g_g_g_unit on February 13, 2014, at 6:38:10
In reply to Re: asking a 'Narcissist' for help, posted by baseball55 on February 8, 2014, at 18:29:15
Sorry for not replying, everyone. My internet has been messing up. But I really appreciated all of your help.
Just to update:
My mother found me lying in bed several days in a row and ended up going hysterical. I explained what was going on, and she asked our doctor (a family friend) to see us at home, who arranged a referral to a neurologist.. who I'll be able to see in 10 days. He also prescribed a remedy in case things get too unbearable.
It's kind of sad, because I keep yearning for a real mother figure, but she is clearly disturbed. She was extremely charming, attentive, pleasant around the doctor, who explained the severity of what was going on. But then the next day, finding me in bed again, lost her temper and blamed the entire situation on me .. i.e., it was only thanks to her that I got any help, I haven't done anything to remedy the situation (not true, obviously), I'm irresponsible for not informing her about what was happening (even though I blatantly tried to at the start).
I suppose the only up-side is that, after learning more about Narcissistic mothers (even though I do have some issues with that term), it's much easier to see all of her stuff for what it is .. i.e. I get so accustomed to the same lazy patterns of abuse/guilt-mongering that I can spot them as they're occurring, and disengage. I also, per my psychiatrist's advice, try to call attention to what she's doing as it's occurring, e.g. "you're being irrational", "how can I explain anything to you when all you do is scream?" and so on.
Wow, what a nightmare!
just to answer your questions ..
@baseball55 .. when I say bed-bound, I'm not just lying there comfortably.. I endlessly toss and turn, clutch a pillow against my stomach, writhe, flail etc.
@Poet .. that is good advice. I guess I get so frustrated that I never want to give her the benefit of me remaining calm, understanding, rational. So I'm more aggressive in return.
@SLS .. that's a good idea, and I should look into university psychiatry hospitals in case anything happens in the future. As far as I'm aware though, the only one I found while googling a little while ago is integrated into a private clinic.
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