Posted by alexandra_k on January 17, 2014, at 0:07:48
In reply to Re: dinah » Dr. Bob, posted by Twinleaf on January 1, 2014, at 16:42:03
> I think the loss could have been easily avoided if she had been given appropriate recognition and respect by you for the important role she played in trying to help carry out your administrative policies. The last series of posts before she blocked herself seemed to me to be completely lacking in appreciation and respect for her and the other deputies, all of whom appear to have been extremely hurt and disillusioned by your interactions with them - all while you were focussing almost entirely on Lou, and breaking your own long-standing administrative policies in order to accommodate him alone.
I know that it is a common thing that... When a friend is hurting... And a friend says they are hurting because of y then... In order to show support toward friend one feels one must rail against the intrinsic badness of y...
And I know that you mean to support / show friendship to Dinah...
But...
Do you really believe the above to be true?
Really?
???
Because that isn't what I see.
I miss Dinah a lot. And... I think that Bob does, too. But that is different from being willing to do anything in order to keep the relationship.
Dinah wants things moderated a certain way... Bob has offered her a board to moderate as she sees fit (with his support). But no... Dinah wants ALL boards moderated as she sees fit. Otherwise... She won't post.
Anyway...
I thought that Bob was doing his best to be understanding... To understand her position as best he could and to accommodate it as best he could (e.g., with the offer of moderating a board how she sees fit / something along the lines of a refuge board).
And... You just... Ah... Sh*t all over that effort. I don't quite know what to say...
I do miss Dinah and I wish she would come back... Even though, from my perspective, if she got even one board to be moderated as she saw fit... I"m sure I wouldn't last 5 minutes on it. But no... She would rather have me banned from all the boards?
?
I don't know what to say...
poster:alexandra_k
thread:1057086
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20131211/msgs/1058732.html