Posted by rjlockhart37 on November 16, 2013, at 1:00:05
i don't know if anyone has heard of the antibullying ads all over the news....but i decided to do one myself...to help others, not propgandaize my post, this is simply from me, Matt
I have had my up and down times with being scared to go to school, i dreaded walking into the locker room with other players, because i was really small, and weak looking, and there are some people that are going to be good to you, but others see you as a target....thats what it is, they see people like prey, weak, a primary target to slash down. My attempts during that time where not successful....and i know why also, because i didnt set myself in a social position to mingle with the bullies, there are people who are people persons, but others who are quiet, or have some weakness that is apparent to other people, thats what causes it....
how to get away from it, say these words "it will end, high school is high school" after it, it will fade, there is people in the world in the owrk place that are going to do mini bullying to people, but do it in way that it doesnt appear that way, just like the psycho nut cases that like to screw people, both sex, and manipulate, thats the mentality similar to it, its just in a lot lower form of it. First put up a guard, and say "My name is ****, no one is going to destroy me" "this happens to many other people, not just me" "i am valuable, no matter what anyone else says"
But a tactic i've learned is to start to become recpetive to them, make humor, do something that would make them laugh...ease the friction....because they see "fresh meat" aka target....and if you change, and grow, and learnn more social tactics, it will fade. But you get the term "fresh meat" means "new" and after a while near the end of high school, it gets old, do not let the memories make you lose your life, high school is a bubble, its not the real world.... don't let its influence stagger from getting into the real world....
learn also how to fight....judo, anything that can be used in defense and fast movement to block people from attacking you.....and also, mingle with the bullies friends...get to know them, and learn what they talk about....that way you can have a blueprint of the attack tactics.
don't do anything stupid, bringing weapons to school to use against them, no thats just as bad as ending it all.....it will end, and those people will be long gone some day....don't do anything that is dirastic out of the moment of anger....thats why all these people in school murders do....they hate what people have done to them and their rejection....and then it built up with black hate, and then the shootings begins.
if there's no one to go to, espcially when you have to live one....start smiling, doing something dumb to distract the attack....do something to avoid them, direct confrontation is hard...unless you have judo moves to use.....
don't talk to them, avoid them at all costs, and if prompted act like your not afraid of them, only when psychical confrontation is there...when you should learn fighting techniques.
give them decoy gifts....put something in your bag if they go through your stuff....put spoiled eggs, or anything hidious that would make someone go yuck....
don't get them back....if you do, do it intelligently....bullies have a superiority complex and they look for people who have inferiority complex's.....thats the main name of bullying.....
don't let this get to you because high school will be over with, or any sitution in life....if its a spouse, learn fighting techniques, do it in self defense, and contact adult protective agency...don't let them over ride you of what you can do.....get a belief system that you are going to make a statement and you will not take sh*t anymore from people. Get fast, and direct....get loaded with things to gear you up for a fight if its going to happen....just not weapons...thats a main thing, never do something thats going to be regretable the next day.....
respect yourself.....friend
r
not a scholar but understand distress
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